Six Boundaries Women Leaders Leverage
Want to influence the way people treat you? Start becoming more aware of your boundaries............Having poor personal boundaries often leads to unhealthy relationships.
Boundaries are important because they set the basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Setting boundaries can ensure that relationships can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring.
During this live recording of the Better U Leadership Podcast, your host, Angela M. Odom will share SIX BOUNDARIES WOMEN LEADERS LEVERAGE
What's Your B.A.S.E?
Boundaries
Accountability
Standards
Expectations
Let's start with the six boundaries women leaders leverage
- Material boundaries determine whether you give or lend things, such as your money, car, clothes, books, food, or toothbrush.
- Physical boundaries pertain to your personal space, privacy, and body. Do you give a handshake or a hug – to whom and when? How do you feel about loud music, nudity, and locked doors?
- Mental boundaries apply to your thoughts, values, and opinions. Are you easily suggestible?
Do you know what you believe, and can you hold onto your opinions?
Can you listen with an open mind to someone else’s opinion without becoming rigid?
If you become highly emotional, argumentative, or defensive, you may have weak emotional boundaries.
4. Emotional boundaries distinguish separating your emotions and responsibility for them from someone else’s. It’s like an imaginary line or force field that separates you and others. Healthy boundaries prevent you from giving advice, blaming or accepting blame.
They protect you from feeling guilty for someone else’s negative feelings or problems and taking others’ comments personally. High reactivity suggests weak emotional boundaries. Healthy emotional boundaries require clear internal boundaries – knowing your feelings and your responsibilities to yourself and others.
5. Sexual boundaries protect your comfort level with sexual touch and activity – what, where, when, and with whom.
6. Spiritual boundaries relate to your beliefs and experiences in connection with God or a higher power.
Once you've identified the different types of boundaries, then establish your operating principals.
4 Principles of Establishing Boundaries
1.Scheduling events / activities on a calendar allows us to breathe (because we say yes a lot)
2. Adopting the mindset of "your emergency is not necessarily mine" or "I'm no longer setting myself on fire to keep others warm."
3. Respond with a Full Body Yes or a Complete No
4. Allow yourself an exit strategy
- Ethical Accountability:
- Administrative Accountability:
- Market Accountability:
- Constituency Relations:
- Public/Private Overlap
Five Ways You Can Leverage Accountability
1.Tell a friend
2. Join an accountability group
3. Use Technology
4. Hire a coach
5. Write it down
B.A.S.E.
Personal Standards are reflected in the quality of our relationships, our work and the way we communicate.
A standard is an agreed way of doing something. It could be about making a product, managing a process, delivering a service or supplying materials—standards can cover a huge range of activities undertaken by organizations and used by their customers.
B.A.S.E
E= Expectations
Manage your team’s expectations
Expectation is defined as believing that something is going to happen or believing that something should be a certain way.
How do women leaders leverage the six types of boundaries? By knowing their B.A.S.E?
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I invited Monique Jackson, a long term listener to share her feedback on this episode.
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Much Love and Much Respect,
Angela
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Angela M. Odom is a life and leadership coach, founder of The Better U Project brand, podcast host, proud Army veteran and the author of BRONCO STRONG: A Memoir of the Last Deployed Personnel Services Battalion and Golom's Magical Gamers as well as a contributing author to the book, "Camouflaged Sisters: Leadership Through The Eyes of Senior Military Women Leaders".
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